Thelma & Nyasha Maringazuva-Mhizha's Citrus Themed Wedding In Umwinsidale, Harare
30th of August 2013
Thelma describes how she knew Nyasha was the one for her ,"The way he treated me with such respect. The way he would go out of his way for me. I don’t know how to describe it but you just know that this is it. You feel it deep down within your being."
How Nyasha knew Thelma was the one
This will sound unreal but I just felt it from the day I first met her. There was a chemistry and a deep understanding that shouldn't have been there between people who had not known each other before. That was special because, until then, I actually believed that there was noone that operated at the same wavelength as I. Thelma changed all that.
Did he propose and how?
No I’m afraid I didn’t have a movie style proposal. In a way I suppose he proposed the "African way”. He asked me to ask Tete what the estimated bride price (lobola) will be, this was after a year and a half into the relationship. A couple of months later he paid the bride price.
Oh Gosh! My dress was the most beautiful dress I had ever seen. My Mum’s young sister, Aunty Mutsa, who lives in Los Angele’s USA bought it for me. When I told her I was getting married she said she would buy the dress from there so she advised me to look at dresses on line and then send her the link when I found it. I saw this dress on line and it was love at first sight. I choose this dress because it was simple yet stylish and classy and it was great for my body type.
Did you use a wedding planner or you planned your own wedding? What was the most stressful part of planning your wedding?
No I didn’t use a wedding planner I did it all by myself with input from my husband of course. Well to be honest, I didn’t have any real big problems with the planning because it’s in my line of work. I’m used to organizing huge workshops and that sort of thing. I created a folder with all the information. I categorized everything, for example, it had cake, church, venue, décor, caterer, bride maids, brides dress, grooms suit, photographer, stationery, etc, so I knew what I wanted. All the service providers I went to were surprised I had a file, they all said I was the most organized bride they had ever seen. Come to think of it the most difficult part of planning the wedding was finding the right décor person to carry out my vision. The décor was going to be tent less and had to be on point. I had to get someone who saw what I envisioned and Jullian from Oreac events was just spot on. My theme was different from most weddings.
Did you stick to your budget, and do you have any tips on cost cutting?
My tips on cost cutting would be, if possible, get some of your own Decor material. Decor takes quite a big chunk from your budget, it's very costly. The number of Chinese lanterns I wanted for the wedding decor were numerous, it was going to be expensive had the decor company supplied them so I went to South Africa and bought my own Chinese Lanterns, candles, floating candles, candle bags, serviettes, flower girls dresses, etc. It really saved us a lot of money. And no, we did not stick to the budget. We exceeded our budget by a thousand or so because the weather was still chilly at night we decided to get gas heaters at the last minute.
What was your theme/colour scheme and what inspired it?
My theme was Citrus. What inspired it was my cake. I saw this cake in a bridal magazine and I said this is the cake I want. It’s different from most cakes because you had to put real fruits on it. The table centre pieces also had real oranges, lemons and limes. I had three bridesmaids and each wore a different color orange, lemon and lime.
Do you recall what you felt on the eve and morning of your wedding day?
I recall getting butterflies in my stomach on the eve of the wedding. You know that feeling of realizing this is it I’m getting married tomorrow. After many months of planning the day is finally here.
What did you love the most about your wedding, and what was the highlight of your wedding?
Thelma:What I loved the most was how beautiful I looked. I really felt like the queen of the day. The highlight was becoming Mrs Mhizha, officially signing that register and Nyasha putting that ring on my finger. And the kiss of course.
Nyasha:What I loved most I'd say was the atmosphere that every guest contributed to the setting. It felt really special to have so many people genuinely happy at the same time. You could just feel the love. The highlight, well, it was the when I saw her walking down the isle. It was the shortest isle I've seen but it felt like miles. Everything felt like it was going in slow motion and she looked absolutely stunning. That just set the right tone for the rest of the day for me.
If you could go back and redo your wedding, what are the things you would most likely change or do differently?
We had 2 tables that were empty, some people didn’t pitch up. What I would do differently is call everyone on the guest list and ask if they are coming or not. I don’t know if it’s a “culture” thing but most people do not RSVP. I think it is polite to call and say sorry I’m not coming then you can replace that cancellation with someone else.
Thelma: I’d say the most memorable part of the day for me was in the car after the church service when we were going to the venue for the photo shoot. My husband held my hand and kissed it and gazed at me with such love and said,"Mrs Mhizha." It was really touching. Our first dance was also memorable and the vows, wow, I cried a bucket, ruined my make up.lol. My sister’s speech that was read on her behalf really made me cry. She couldn’t come because she was stuck at work, she lives in New York USA.
Advice or tips for future brides and grooms?
Thelma: Yes, plan your wedding in advance and pay for some things in advance if possible. That way you have no pressure as the days to the wedding draw closer. Create a file a year or so before the wedding and put pictures in there from magazines (e.g.Bride & Groom Magazine) or the internet so that you can visualize everything.
Nyasha: Wedding planning is the best team building exercise I now know, be involved, participate fully. By the time you're done, you're guaranteed of knowing and understanding each other even better. It is a solid foundation for your future.
Do you have any advice for guests to a wedding?
Yes, please don’t leave with the empties and décor materials. The bride and groom would have paid a security deposit for them, they are not for free. Alsoinvited guests should not bring uninvited guests.
Why did you get married?
Thelma: Why??? What a question! Because he asked me? lol.Because he is the one and I love him. We are soul mates, can’t imagine my life without him.
Nyasha: I would say because falling in love with Thelma came with feelings of incompleteness and duty. I knew I had met the final piece to this puzzle. I felt like my life would be more fulfilling if I spent it loving and serving her.
Thelma: Nyasha I love you more than my heart can contain. You are the best husband in the world. I am truly blessed to have you in my life. I am really looking forward to spending the rest of my life with you.
Nyasha: Thelma, you are God's best work of art. His best creation to me. You give me so much happiness and you strengthen my faith. You have given me my dream life and because you love me, I am the happiest man in the world. I love you .
- Jewellery: American Swiss South Africa
- Décor: Oreac Events - Jullian
- Caterer: Chef Taku's Kitchen - Taku
- Photos: Wild Production
- Stationery : Sunflower Creation
- Gown: David's Bridal USA
- Suit: Bought in South Africa
- Bridemaids Dresses: Bought in USA
- Marriage Officer: Father Kufakunesu
- Master Of Ceremony: Tonderai Katsande
- DJ: Tonderai Katsande
- Dances Instructor: Clive
- Florist: Oreac Events - Jullian
- Reception Venue: Milcox Manor
- Ceremony Venue: St Gerad's Roman Catholic Church
- Cake: Cake Décor
- Hair: Moyra